I like to think I’m fairly low-maintenance. I don’t require endless hair and nail appointments. I rarely go on ‘shopping excursions,’ and I do not expect flowers and lavish gifts on Valentine’s Day. Because of this, I think my family feels they get a free pass to put in minimum effort on every front.
Normally, I don’t mind. I don’t care if I’m catered to on my birthday or anniversary. And it’s no big deal if I don’t get showered in adoration for the posh birthday parties I throw for the kids (although a "thank you" would be nice.) But there is one deal-breaker:
I will cook, clean, wipe bums and make beds every single day of the year. But not that day. So, although I don’t expect to be lavished in expensive baubles this Mother’s Day, there is a short list of things I do expect:
1. Make your own bed.
You can do it. I know you can. Even though this is a service that is usually provided for you, it really doesn’t take much effort to pull up a sheet and quilt in an orderly and wrinkle-free fashion. And don’t forget the pillows.
2. Mediate your own arguments.
I will not play the role of arbitrator today. The easiest way to avoid any need for a referee is if each person plays with/touches only his/her own stuff. It’s also helpful to avoid any contact or personal interaction with any other family member. If a disagreement over a certain toy/activity cannot be avoided, go see your father. Just know that he will probably throw away the toy in question, or ban said activity from ever happening again (up to and including playing anything in the house.)
3. Be your own medic.
Unless there is the possibility of limb amputation, I will not be attending to any cuts, bumps, scrapes or bruises. Please be careful. Also, if amputation does become an issue, go see your father. He may have the bedside manner of Nurse Ratched, but he will be the one to take you to the urgent care.
4. Do not disturb my nap.
On this day, I plan to take a nap, by myself, in peace and quiet. This plan will require certain adjustments to your behavior (see 2 and 3 above.) In addition, there is an expectation on my part that you will use your inside voice. I realize that an inside voice may not fulfill my wish for a peaceful rest, so it may be wise to implement the “Irish whisper.” Also, not talking at all is an option you may want to consider.
5. All stabby toys should be removed from my bed.
This is essential for the implementation of number 4 above, and should not require any further explanation, however, an illustration is provided below:
What would make your Mother’s Day perfect?